Do you know how influential you really are? Most of the time we have no idea the influence that we are having on the world, others and on ourselves.
It's incredibly important to sit back and look honestly at how your energy is influencing your self and the world. Today in my latest podcast I want to help you to take an honest look at the INFLUENTIAL YOU!
This is a very short podcast, that I know will help you remember your connection with others and how IMPORTANT you truly are.
You can listen to the podcast here:
One of the most important and powerful abilities we have in our lives is the ability to manifest anything we truly want. As Glinda tells Dorothy in "The Wizard of Oz": "You have always had the power, my dear"
In this week's podcast I go deeper into how having a vision of your dreams is so crucial. Remember "Where there is no vision, the people perish"....
Do you ever feel like you have little of no boundaries with people?
Do you always seem to put others first?
Does life sometimes feel like you are just a ship tossing from wave to wave?
In this week's podcast I will help you to redefine what TRUE boundaries are and how to keep them! This is a simple yet very effective way to feel more stable and focused in your life.
In the times that we live in, there is much to fear. As we try to navigate the internal and external path of life these days, we can get lost from our true Source.
Today I want to share with you a beautiful message from Lesson 48 of #ACourseinMiracles "There is nothing to fear" Sit back and take a few minutes to STOP and remember your Source today.
If you would like more guidance in your life in order transform your fear and live in a deep peace and joy, I would love to help you. We can work together to identify your blocks and have you moving forward. I have some times open to speak with you. You can find a time to talk HERE
When it comes to #SelfSabotage we can use a variety of ways to keep us from living up to our true potential. We all have been in a place where we have "reasons" for not accomplishing what we say we are going to accomplish. The problem with most of these "reasons" is that they really are EXCUSES, because we are afraid, we are threatened to actually live up to what we say we are, but more likely that we just don't have a deep belief that supports accomplishing what we say we want.
One of the BIGGEST "reasons" I see is: "I'm too busy!" This is a convenient and destructive pattern that we must start to see for what it is; AN EXCUSE. I recently spoke about this on a live broadcast on #Periscope. I hope that it helps you clarify some things if you are "too busy".
Please share your thoughts and comments below!
Sending you tons of LOVE!
Last week I wrote to you about self sabotage and how important it is for us to understand how and why these destructive patterns keep us from truly living in Joy and expanding to achieve all we can.
In last weeks article I told you basically WHY we have patterns of self sabotage. The main reason is that we humans have an innate need for congruency. That means that if what we say and what we truly believe do not match, then what we truly believe will ALWAYS win. So, if you are saying “I want success” however in the deepest part of you you have a belief that says “I’m afraid and everyone will find out I’m a fake” you will live up to the “I’m a fake” belief. In psychology this is called “cognitive dissonance” in reality it is played out by self sabotaging behaviors eg;
In my opinion, if you truly want to grow, expand, have real Joy and make a real difference in your life and the world, you must understand the process of your own self sabotage.
Today, I want to talk with you more specially about what I just touched on, which i call:
The Fake Out Syndrome
The Fake Out is something I see all the time with the people I work with. We begin working on what they say they want. It could be their spiritual enlightenment. It could be finally having that business they have dreamed of for years. It could be attracting a beautiful relationship. It could be breaking into a different economic strata. Or just about anything that requires them to grow and stretch.
All of these are fine and very achievable goals. All of these are things that people all around the world are doing and succeeding at every day. So, why is it when it comes to some people, they can’t achieve these things?
As I’ve said, I see this in my work all the time. What happens is that on a conscious level they state their goals to me. We refine them and then, together we begin to create the path to achieving these goals. Here is what happens. They start taking the actions we have set up. They begin to do the things that we come up with to get the result. They do it for a while. I support them when it gets tough. They do a little more. I support them in being flexible on their way to attracting the goal. They start to become more resistant. I sense that they are not keeping up with their action plan.
We talk. I ask why they aren’t doing the things we laid out? They almost always say, (and this is crucial) “I don’t know why”. The truth is that they actually do know, but they need help finding out why. I coach them through it. We dig deep and then we find out that it’s The Fake Out syndrome. I know this because they begin to say things like:
The Fake Out Syndrome.
If you feel like you are a fake, then why even try? So, the mind will use this as a way OUT... Why don’t you just give up now and Fake OUT of it?
You may have heard about the phrase:
“Fake it, till you make it”
Many times this is used to overcome deep negative beliefs about what you are capable of. The problem with that is 2 things;
As I’ve said I’ve seen The Fake OUT syndrome over and over. The obvious solution to The Fake Out syndrome is to truly know and believe in yourself as you grow and BECOME the new version of yourself that has all those things you desire in your life.
THIS is where the work comes in. The WORK traditionally is based on the ACTIONS you are taking. But that is “putting the cart before the horse” as they say. BUT, when you truly KNOW that you are:
Then the actions feel exciting. Then the actions, even if if they are challenging, feel as if they are stepping stones to your new expanded life. They can even feel fun and energizing! They align with what you KNOW you are.
Remember congruency...? It is THEN when you you conquer
The Fake Out Syndrome.
Thanks for spending your time on yourself with me and if you would like to book a time to talk with me, so I can help you with your self sabotaging behaviors just CLICK HERE
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Do you know those times when you have decided to lose 30 pounds and you start to do it and somewhere down the line, maybe it’s just a couple weeks you begin to make excuses for not exercising or eating properly?
Do you know those times when you swear you’re going to finally organize that closet you’ve been ignoring for years, and one Saturday you begin to do it and then by the next Saturday it’s still not done and you just close the door again?
Or maybe it’s something as big as starting a business or writing a book. You tell yourself I have this awesome idea for a business and you know that it will sell. People will love it. And of course, it will feel great to be your own boss. Then you start to put together a website, you do some research, you might even begin to create a product or train yourself to be a professional in that business. Then, a few months down the road it seems like it was all just a dream and you’re back to your normal life? The same exact thing with that book that you promised yourself would write to years ago. You open up a storage box and you find a manuscript with three chapters written and you never finished it…
All of us have been there.
All of us know the pattern.
All of us, at some point have become victims of...self sabotage.
The problem is that most of us continue to self sabotage ourselves all over the place. It could be the smallest thing that you promise to yourself that you will do, to a big project. Actually the size of it doesn’t matter. Because every time that we self sabotage in any form, or at any level, what we are really saying to ourselves is that we can’t trust ourselves. We may claim on the surface that we are “do what you say, say what you do“ kind of people, but in the back of your mind you know that you have forsaken yourself in so many tiny and major ways over the years.
Now, there are many reasons that we self sabotage. And if we do not address and look at how and why we are self sabotaging we will continue in that pattern.
Today, I want to talk with you about the main reason that with self sabotage. The number 1 reason we self sabotage, is that we as humans, want and need to feel congruent. When I say congruent I mean that at our core we want our words, actions and deeds to be in alignment. We really do, as I’ve said before want to be “do what you say, say what you do” kinds of people.
The problem comes when what we believe about ourselves at the deepest level is not in alignment with what we are trying to do or achieve.
For example, if you say that you really do want to be organized, But way down deep inside, you have a believe about yourself that you are not organized and that you let things slip through the cracks or any other manifestation of un-organization, you will never be organized. No matter how much you want to be, you will begin to try to be organized and then you will self sabotage and your house will start to be a mess again…
Another example is that you may really want to have a very healthy, beautiful and successful relationship. And it seems that every time you get into one, something happens… Either you leave them or they leave you or any number of things could happen to dissolve the relationship. The fact is, that deep down somewhere inside you, you have a belief that you either do not deserve that kind of relationship or that you are flawed in some irreparable way that no one could truly love you. Or something is saying you are not capable of giving and receiving that deep expansive love to someone else.
Everything comes back to what you believe about who you truly are.
Your relationship with yourself is everything.
Did you hear me?
Your relationship with yourself is everything.
If you do not get your relationship with yourself clear and healthy, you will continue to self sabotage anything and everything in your life.
I’m sharing all of this with you today, because I have seen this pattern over and over with the people that I help to have a truly peaceful, joyful life and attract and create the life they truly want.
They come to me in the place of not knowing who they truly are. They come to me in a place where they’re sick and tired of self sabotage. They come to me in a place where they are ready to make the next half of their life amazing and not fall victim to these patterns anymore. They come to me ready and committed to change…
The incredible thing that excites me so much, is that years and years of self sabotaging behavior can be healed and transcended fairly quickly. These patterns can be changed. These patterns can be a thing of the past. These patterns are something, that when seen through a loving and supportive light, can be a bridge across fear, anxiety, frustration and even depression to an amazing experience of joy, peace and accomplishment.
In future blogs, I am going to break down some of these self sabotage patterns so that you can understand them more in your own life. I’m excited to share these to help you to get more clarity and understanding of the way that your mind might be working and how you can begin to change it for good.
I hope that this has made you think or opened your eyes to a few things about how you may be self-sabbotaging. PLEASE COMMENT BELOW HOW THIS MANIFESTS IN YOUR LIFE. I would love to hear!
REMEMBER: If you are struggling, I am here to help you. If you are ready to truly live in Joy and attract positive results, you can book a FREE time to talk HERE
Happy Focus Friday!!
I have decided that I will start to do my blog again after a couple of years! We will be adding 1 blog a week on Fridays which will be a valuable focus to help you consider a question, give you some advice or something that will help you to retrain your mind to attract positive results in your life. I'm excited to share these with you! Our first one is all about how we take criticism and how to be our best when we feel the need to defend.
On our road to self actualization we need to look at how we take feedback and criticism. If we want to be the best at what we do and the best we can be, we need to look at our emotional reactions and what that reaction is telling us about ourselves. If we can just step back long enough and quit taking it personally, we will be able to stay in our own vibration and truly learn from the situation.
In this talk I gave on Periscope this week, I relay a story of when I had the need to defend when confronted with some feedback. I hope that the QTIP helps you!
After you are done, please leave your comments on how this teaching applies to your life below. I want to hear where you are and how I can help!
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This week in USA and Canada we celebrate the concept of freedom with July the 4th and Canada Day respectively.
This is a time when besides the fireworks, hot dogs and BBQ's we have the opportunity to do some serious reflection of what true "freedom" means to us as individuals and as a collective human civilization.
Let's look at this from the macro to the micro perspective;
Firstly, we can look at a myriad of examples around the globe about how the concept of freedom or independence is manifesting itself. Take what has just taken place with the "Brexit". This situation is showing that on a mass collective there is an underlying pull towards being "free". This result and even the idea of "Brexit" would never have even come up without somewhere as a culture there was a feeling of a deficit of freedom or independence. To see how this same yearning in the USA is happening, all you have to do is look at the rise in calls for separation and exclusion in current politics.
On the global stage we can see evidence of this same yearning for freedom & independence by the rise of terrorist activity that is happening. The terrorists are seeking independence and freedom from what they believe to be the oppression and evil of current western ideologies which conflict with their religious morals. Of course their horrific methodologies of getting what they want can never be condoned, we need to seriously look at the core of WHY they are doing these things and get beyond the "evil" label. The fact is that they are seeking freedom too.
This brings us to US. What's happening on the outer world is the result of what is happening on the inner world. A Course in Miracles teaches us that WE are cause and the world is effect. Meaning that what we believe, think & feel will eventually find its way to manifesting in the world. The great spiritual traditions teach this all the time. Even the bible says: "As above, so below"
Individually there is great conflict within many of us at this time in history.
People are feeling cut off. People are feeling excluded. People are feeling isolated.
People are feeling angry. People are feeling hopeless and helpless...
Once again, A Course in Miracles teaches us that beyond our separations of bodies and geography that there is only one "sonship". That sonship is you, me, those we love, those we hate, those we respect, those we condemn, the terrorists, the refugees, and the list could go on and on...
The lesson here is, whether our egos like it or not, our "enemies" ARE us. Therefore, the more we seek "Freedom" from them the more we seek separation from ourselves.
THIS separation is why there is so much strife, pain and suffering apparent within and without. As a species we are at an amazingly powerful choice point in history and I know that you feel it because everyone does. We can either continue down the road of separation with the thinly veiled label of "freedom" or we can do what has been evidenced by among other things, the recent tragedy in Orlando where we witnessed a massive reaction of true unity, compassion and unification.
The answer to this call for freedom is the healing power of love and unity.
You see the ego wants everything to be very complicated, but Spirit is extremely simple. If we get beyond all the noise of the world and even noisier ego in our minds, all we have to do is ask ourselves honestly:
How much true love, compassion and support am I giving myself on a consistent basis?
How much judgement, condemnation and punishment on any level am I railing against me?
There is no healing without honesty, so I encourage you to answer these questions with facts and not how you "wish" you could be to yourself. Honestly, approaching these questions are the beginnings of TRUE freedom and healing the "sonship". Once we all dedicate ourselves to healing our separation, we will see more and more evidence of that in the world.
Let TRUE freedom ring this holiday for ALL and not just a few...
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